This is what rituals are for. We do spiritual ceremonies as human beings in order to create a safe resting place for our most complicated feelings of joy or trauma, so that we don't have to haul those feelings around with us forever, weighing us down. We all need such places of ritual safekeeping. And I do believe that if your culture or tradition doesn't have the specific ritual you are craving, then you are absolutely permitted to make up a ceremony of your own devising, fixing your own broken-down emotional systems with all the do-it-yourself resourcefulness of a generous plumber/poet. ― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
This time of year, our Jewish tradition has ritual that
takes us through an incredible process of taking stock of ourselves over the
past year in order to bring ourselves fully to G!d. I feel thankful for this
time and space because - as Elizabeth ’s
puts it - we need this ritual so we don't carry these feelings around forever.
It’s difficult, to drop our emotions off, our misgivings and wrong doings, and
leave them. I tend to let them shrink around in the corner of my shadow long
after I’ve told them goodbye. I tend to treat them like they have permission to
follow me.
How can we truly forgive, others and ourselves, when healing
may take more than a High Holiday season? A practice I’ve picked up in the last
few years is one that gives my feelings away to the Earth. The Earth, her
perfect systems, cyclical in nature and always regenerating, is a master of
receiving and rebirth. Two years ago, I lead my Jewish Justice Fellowship
through an exercise of trying this: sitting on the ground, hands planted in the
Earth, and asking her to ritually safeguard our heavy things. To take these
worries off our mind - the ones that float around and aren't moving right now.
Carry them, and I will take them back, once you’ve done some of your cyclical
magic; once they’ve had some space to breath, decomposed some.
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